Spare Us From Your DRAMA QUEEN MOMENTS
The guys in Jeanne's youth ministry wanted Jeanne to tell the girls..."SPARE US THE DRAMA QUEEN MOMENTS! BECAUSE THAT REALLY DRIVES US CRAZY!!"
And the minute that came up...everybody ignited on that. They said, "That is so true."
The gentlemen said, and they were trying to be nice, "We know girls are wired a little differently, tend to oftentimes have stronger feelings." But they said, "We do not want our friendship to begin to feel like reruns of The Bachelor."
And they went on to say underneath this..."It's no fair to take your feelings out on us when you're having a bad day. If you're in a really bad mood, be in a bad mood in front of your lady friends rather than giving them what they called..."Estrogen overload moments." Their quote.
One of the "signatures" of youth ministry is to cultivate HEALTHY, GREAT CHRISTIAN FRIENDSHIPS. But "FEELINGS" can make that goal pretty complicated sometimes when it comes to FRIENDSHIPS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX.
Jeanne wanted to connect with the hearts of her students, so she hosted two "focus groups," one with guys and the other one with girls. She asked them to talk about their FEELINGS when it came to building HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS with the opposite sex...what they WISHED their counterparts KNEW. Find out all the 12 things the guys wanted the girls to know...and the 14 things the girls wanted me to pass on to the guys... in the message called, "FEELS: What We All Feel When It Comes To Relationships."
The guys in Jeanne's youth ministry wanted Jeanne to tell the girls..."SPARE US THE DRAMA QUEEN MOMENTS! BECAUSE THAT REALLY DRIVES US CRAZY!!"
And the minute that came up...everybody ignited on that. They said, "That is so true."
The gentlemen said, and they were trying to be nice, "We know girls are wired a little differently, tend to oftentimes have stronger feelings." But they said, "We do not want our friendship to begin to feel like reruns of The Bachelor."
And they went on to say underneath this..."It's no fair to take your feelings out on us when you're having a bad day. If you're in a really bad mood, be in a bad mood in front of your lady friends rather than giving them what they called..."Estrogen overload moments." Their quote.
One of the "signatures" of youth ministry is to cultivate HEALTHY, GREAT CHRISTIAN FRIENDSHIPS. But "FEELINGS" can make that goal pretty complicated sometimes when it comes to FRIENDSHIPS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX.
Jeanne wanted to connect with the hearts of her students, so she hosted two "focus groups," one with guys and the other one with girls. She asked them to talk about their FEELINGS when it came to building HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS with the opposite sex...what they WISHED their counterparts KNEW. Find out all the 12 things the guys wanted the girls to know...and the 14 things the girls wanted me to pass on to the guys... in the message called, "FEELS: What We All Feel When It Comes To Relationships."
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So, buckle your seat belts and get ready. We pull out all the stops in this Source by explaining multiple ways "soul ties" are formed and seven ways to break free from them. Drawing from my own personal story, a lot of Scripture and two well written monologues, your students are sure to walk away with an expanded arsenal of weapons to guard against and conquer negative "soul ties."
Lovingly,
The term "catfish" has become really popular in culture. A catfish is a person who creates fake profiles online and pretends to be someone they are not by using someone else's pictures and information, usually with the intention of getting someone to fall in love with them. The truth is, we are all vulnerable to be catfished. Why? It's because we're all looking for TWO THINGS in relationships: Someone who genuinely CARES ABOUT US and someone who can be somewhat of a HERO.
In this month's Source, "Who Catfished My Friends?" the challenge to our students is simple, be a real hero. People are tired of being catfished spiritually. They want some authentic heroes: a person who is FULLY HUMAN yet still deeply WORTH FOLLOWING.
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Lovingly,
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Lovingly,
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I wanted to connect with the hearts of my students, so I hosted two "focus groups," one with guys and the other one with girls. I asked them to talk about their FEELINGS when it came to building HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS with the opposite sex...what they WISHED their counterparts KNEW. Listen in to the 12 things the guys wanted the girls to know...and the 14 things the girls wanted me to pass on to the guys. I added a memorable story and God's concept of unselfish friendship and Christian love outlined for us in 1 Corinthians 13. It was a light hearted evening that conveyed some pretty profound truths.
Lovingly,
